Follow Through

About a year and a half ago, I made the decision to move to a new city. New faces, new sights, new basically everything. Hardest decision of my life. However, I happened to move to a city where the singles are not so ready to mingle. Needless to say, I have not been on a date in the amount of time that I have been here. I'm not saying that I'm super torn up over it. I never dated that much in my old town. It's just that the guys here are quite interesting. There are a few kids that I wouldn't mind dating, but the whole notion has become that you have to KNOW the person before you ask them out on a date. Since when has that become a thing? Dates are for getting to know them. That is why you have stimulating conversation over a meal. Or you go to a park, or just walk around downtown. Just DO SOMETHING. I have an example of what I mean.

Introducing Captain America.

This kid is all sorts of adorable. He is tall, blonde, built, beautiful blue eyes, and is genuinely nice to everyone that he meets. Oh, and he speaks French. Need I say more? We bonded over our love of rugby and movies. Many late night conversations that led to continuous conversations that lasted for daysssss. 

Seems like a dream right? 

Basically he is, but he has one major downfall. He does not follow through. Just how the Captain never made his date with Agent Carter, this Captain never made a date with me. Oh sure he has asked me on plenty of dates, but not a single one of them has he followed through on. Every single time, he says "I need to take you to do {something.}" And then I'm all for it and give him a day that would work and it never happens. Ever. His main reason being that we don't know each other yet. Well duh. You never take me out on a date! (He is also trying to ask out like 5 other girls on dates.... story of my life, and none of them go on dates with him either.)

Lesson for guys: You want to get to know someone personally? You need one on one time with them. Take them out on a date. It doesn't need to be fancy. You can make caramel apples and laugh about how all of the caramel falls off or that you basically made caramel milk. Or go to the pet shelter and pet puppies and possibly buy one... ;) I don't care. Just do something. Enough of this waiting around for the girl to make a move and show that she is interested. Take initiative. You like a girl? ASK HER. The worst she can say is no. And honestly, yes its terrifying and there may be tons of girls that will turn you down. But all it takes is one yes. If you don't ask, its a 100% no. If you ask, you get a 50/50 chance. Worth a shot right? Well to all of the guys like the Captain. Just man up and ask us out. Show us that chivalry isn't dead. Who knows what will come out of it. 

"You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” -Benjamin Mee