So I went on that date with Rand. It was so fun, which made it harder.
Don't you just hate when there's a boy who is wonderful and funny, but you know a relationship between the two of you just wouldn't work out? Yeah, that's how it is with Rand. And it's awful.
I was sick of the drama and the confusion and of feeling like I was second best, and I wasn't letting this date end without demanding an explanation from him. We had a really great conversation and he completely explained why he was acting the way that he was and why he had changed his mind about me multiple times in the matter of a week... he was just so confused about what he was thinking and feeling, plus the whole thing with The One Timer had kind of gotten blown out of proportion due to the fact that all of our friends are in each others lives. Basically, I wasn't angry anymore at all - I just felt so sad for Rand because of his confusion and frustration and lack of confidence.
And I learned Dating Rule #96: People generally have good intentions; give them the opportunity to explain themselves before jumping to hasty conclusions.
In the end he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he wanted to keep going on dates and spending time together... I thought about it for a second, but there was no way I could agree to that. I was still hurt and confused by what had gone down and I didn't think I could handle going on dates with him right now. So we left that date deciding just to be friends. I knew it was going to be kind of hard at first, but I figured that he would eventually realize as I had that a relationship wouldn't work out between us.
Yeah, fail.
It's been a month since that time and Rand is still hanging around but we've never further discussed what's going on between us. I see him multiple times a week because two of his best friends are currently dating two of my roommates, so he is just always there. I have a hard time figuring out what's happening between us. And I'm pretty sure he is still interested in me. But I don't want anything to happen between us. That boy is so dramatic and kind of immature and I don't think I can handle it. Yet, I still find him fascinating and wonderful and am still sometimes attracted to him. I seriously love him to death, but not in a romantic way... but I don't think he would agree. He started the flirting again a week or two ago. I am just a naturally flirty person, so whenever he is around, I have to take special precautions not to lead him on and and flirt with him. Somedays I am much better at this than others.
Basically, he is still obviously interested in me and I am definitely not interested in him any longer, and now I don't know what to do. He is wonderful and in some ways I still do like him, but there are just somethings about him that drive me crazy and we would never work out. I felt so bad about it at first because I know he's still interested, but it's been so long and he is still just hanging on, even though I haven't given him any reason to, so it's to the point that sometimes I just feel indifferent about it.
Don't think I'm heartless - though you probably wouldn't be the first to think that.
But why won't he just get the hint and stop trying to make something happen with us and just accept that all we're ever going to be is friends.
He stresses me out. And I feel bad when he hears about or sees me with Bodhai (the story which I will recap next time). I don't want to hurt him, but I also don't want to date him...
Oh my life. And oh that boy. He has created so much stress/drama in my life.
Friendly Kisser. Peacing out.
Friday, March 29, 2013
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Monday, March 25, 2013
Roller coaster much?
Oh my life. Folks, it's been crazy.
The One Timer briefly recapped the California road trip that we went on and it was so fun! I was hesitant to go on the trip because I had been wanting to spend time with Bodhai and he had asked me on the date for that weekend, but alas I ended up road tripping with Rand instead. And it was a blast!
Guys, I'm going to keep this story as short as possible and in order to do that, I must just preface some things that I have learned about Rand al'Thor: he is the most perfectly confused boy with a bit of a lack of self-confidence, which is why he hangs on to things and has a problem letting go. That should explain a lot of the proceedings of the last couple of weeks.
We got back from California - that very night he came over to talk and tell me that he feels like he needs to be completely honest and he doesn't want to lead me on. Something just wouldn't let him like me, and he didn't think this was going anywhere. I was thrilled!! It made my decision for me, and I no longer had to stress about the situation with Rand, we could just be friends... or so I thought.
But then, the very next day Rand expressed interest in The One Timer.
Yeah.
What?!
And so for a week The One Timer was in a lovely love triangle with Rand and Twitch (which I am positive she will give you some excellent details on in a later post), and I was blissfully unaware of the whole situation. When I was finally let into the loop, I barely had enough time to register the ridiculousness of the situation and realize that I was kind of hurt that he dropped me like a hot tamale and turned so quickly to my roommate.
Before I even had time to completely understand what was going down and less than a week from the day that he told me that nothing was going to happen between us, he called me and asked me on a date! WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING IN THIS BOYS MIND? What makes him think this is okay? It totally made me feel like he realized he didn't have a chance with The One Timer, so he figured he might as well just take me on a date. But I refuse to be someone's second choice!
My direct quote when he asked me on this date: "What the freak Rand?! You are killing me!"
He told me that he knows that he put me through an emotional roller coaster through that week and it would be perfectly fair if I said no, but he really would like to take me on a date. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and agreed to go on the date. I think a lot of my motivation was because I was planning on grilling him with questions, making him completely explain what was going on.
And THEN while all of this drama was occurring with Rand, I was spending time with Bodhai. We went on a date that I swear was tailored just for me: nicklecade, frozen yogurt, Harry Potter movie, and cuddling. I was really starting to like this boy, but once this whole Rand thing happened, it made me confused about Bodhai as well.
There you have it. That was my situation about a month ago. Further updates to follow.
The Friendly Kisser
The One Timer briefly recapped the California road trip that we went on and it was so fun! I was hesitant to go on the trip because I had been wanting to spend time with Bodhai and he had asked me on the date for that weekend, but alas I ended up road tripping with Rand instead. And it was a blast!
Guys, I'm going to keep this story as short as possible and in order to do that, I must just preface some things that I have learned about Rand al'Thor: he is the most perfectly confused boy with a bit of a lack of self-confidence, which is why he hangs on to things and has a problem letting go. That should explain a lot of the proceedings of the last couple of weeks.
We got back from California - that very night he came over to talk and tell me that he feels like he needs to be completely honest and he doesn't want to lead me on. Something just wouldn't let him like me, and he didn't think this was going anywhere. I was thrilled!! It made my decision for me, and I no longer had to stress about the situation with Rand, we could just be friends... or so I thought.
But then, the very next day Rand expressed interest in The One Timer.
Yeah.
What?!
And so for a week The One Timer was in a lovely love triangle with Rand and Twitch (which I am positive she will give you some excellent details on in a later post), and I was blissfully unaware of the whole situation. When I was finally let into the loop, I barely had enough time to register the ridiculousness of the situation and realize that I was kind of hurt that he dropped me like a hot tamale and turned so quickly to my roommate.
Before I even had time to completely understand what was going down and less than a week from the day that he told me that nothing was going to happen between us, he called me and asked me on a date! WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING IN THIS BOYS MIND? What makes him think this is okay? It totally made me feel like he realized he didn't have a chance with The One Timer, so he figured he might as well just take me on a date. But I refuse to be someone's second choice!
My direct quote when he asked me on this date: "What the freak Rand?! You are killing me!"
He told me that he knows that he put me through an emotional roller coaster through that week and it would be perfectly fair if I said no, but he really would like to take me on a date. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and agreed to go on the date. I think a lot of my motivation was because I was planning on grilling him with questions, making him completely explain what was going on.
And THEN while all of this drama was occurring with Rand, I was spending time with Bodhai. We went on a date that I swear was tailored just for me: nicklecade, frozen yogurt, Harry Potter movie, and cuddling. I was really starting to like this boy, but once this whole Rand thing happened, it made me confused about Bodhai as well.
There you have it. That was my situation about a month ago. Further updates to follow.
The Friendly Kisser
Thursday, March 21, 2013
Itch for Twitch
The Friendly Kisser and I planned a trip to California. Naturally, we wanted to bring men. Because of that, we invited Rand A'Thor and Twitch. Naturally, both were extremely fun and attractive. While The Friendly Kisser had interest in Rand A'Thor (They'd previously been out on a few dates, etc), I had mild interest in Twitch. And I really do mean mild! He was in our ward, but I hadn't talked to him a ton.
Everytime I had though had been wonderful. In fact, I do believe I announced to my roommates before leaving for Cali - "I want Twitch to ask me on a date!" But who knows.. It's very likely I just yelled that myself.
Imagine 3 days of bliss and fun. We went to the beach for 7 hours on Saturday, enjoying 80 degree weather, went out to eat, watched movies, played games and told stories. Not just any stories, though. Dating stories. After 20 hours in the car, the 4 of us had each shared the rough entirety of our dating histories.
What did I learn from this?
Twitch was clearly a ladies man. Not only did his stories suggest it, but Rand made sure to make it clear. "Every girl" wanted to date this man and this man seemed to be rather picky. As Rand pointed out, by the end of the trip, I had become "one of the many" girls. Twitch was fun and willing to be crazy slash do embarrassing things. He was easy to talk to. He was sweet and yet hilarious. He was a blast to be around. No, I couldn't find anything wrong with him. And that's where the problems REALLY began.
Upon returning from Cali, I had definitely made up my mind. However, I just needed to convince him of the same thing: we needed to date. But how do you convince a man who can have any lady he wants that you're good enough to date?
That, my friends, is where the story really gets good.
To be continued...
The One Timer: Over and Out.
Everytime I had though had been wonderful. In fact, I do believe I announced to my roommates before leaving for Cali - "I want Twitch to ask me on a date!" But who knows.. It's very likely I just yelled that myself.
Imagine 3 days of bliss and fun. We went to the beach for 7 hours on Saturday, enjoying 80 degree weather, went out to eat, watched movies, played games and told stories. Not just any stories, though. Dating stories. After 20 hours in the car, the 4 of us had each shared the rough entirety of our dating histories.
What did I learn from this?
Twitch was clearly a ladies man. Not only did his stories suggest it, but Rand made sure to make it clear. "Every girl" wanted to date this man and this man seemed to be rather picky. As Rand pointed out, by the end of the trip, I had become "one of the many" girls. Twitch was fun and willing to be crazy slash do embarrassing things. He was easy to talk to. He was sweet and yet hilarious. He was a blast to be around. No, I couldn't find anything wrong with him. And that's where the problems REALLY began.
Upon returning from Cali, I had definitely made up my mind. However, I just needed to convince him of the same thing: we needed to date. But how do you convince a man who can have any lady he wants that you're good enough to date?
That, my friends, is where the story really gets good.
To be continued...
The One Timer: Over and Out.
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